As a “Natural Mother” it is not uncommon to face derision or people questioning your choices. You will probably have to put up with things being said to you like:
“What? You don’t use Panadol? What the hell do you use?”
“Oh you’re not one of those ‘natural’ mothers are you? You’ll use Panadol one day. Trust me. When those teeth come in, you’ll be dosing him up!”
“If your baby cries while you’re driving, just give him some Nurofen. That’ll keep him quiet.”
“You haven’t had him immunized? Aren’t you worried he could get really sick? He could die.”
Before the age of 12 months I was asked questions like:
“Why can’t I give him icecream? It was only a little bit.”
“Can he have fairy floss? Just a little bit on his tongue?”
“Why isn’t he allowed Easter Eggs?”
“Does he eat enough? Is his diet healthy enough for him? He looks very underweight.”
For some reason, I have found that there a lot of people who seem to have a negative view of ‘older’ babies being breast fed.
“Oh you still breastfeed?” (My bub was only 16months at the time).
Breast milk is the healthiest option for your baby. It supports their immune system and provides them with nutrients that cannot be found elsewhere.
Yes I still breastfeed! And yes, I am proud of it!
I do not know why people care what I feed my baby. Or why they feel the need to comment on or question my choices. I think every mother faces some judgement, some criticism or someone giving you unwanted advice at some point. Sometimes I think these people may mean well, and sometimes I think naysayers feel threatened by the choices I’ve made because they were different to their own.
I do what I feel is right, and I do not believe in criticizing others for choices they have made. I welcome advice when I have asked for it. I am proud of the way I have raised my son.
I just wanted to let other mothers-who may face the same predicaments-know that it’s ok to make the choices you feel comfortable with. It’s ok to raise your baby the way you want to. If your baby is healthy and happy. Then there is nothing wrong.
Love and light,